Last week, my boyfriend and I moved in together- ending over a year of long-distance together, most of which happened during the height of the pandemic here in the UK.
After surviving a long-distance relationship for so long- I wanted to write a post about what it’s really like to be in a long-distance relationship, and offer a few tips for survival.
Whether you’re starting a long-distance relationship soon, or you’re long-distance with your partner at the moment, it’s never easy- but it is possible!
In this post, I want to discuss what it’s really like to be in a long-distance relationship, and 5 tips for survival if you’re worried about how this is going to work for you and your partner.
My boyfriend and I survived a long-distance relationship at one of the worst possible times to be long-distance- and you can too!
What is it Really Like to Be in a Long-Distance Relationship?
There are lots ups and downs
The truth about being in a long-distance relationship is that you will experience a lot of ups and downs during your time apart.
Problems will come and go, and just like in life you will experience ups and downs, often exacerbated because you and your partner can’t see each other everyday.
It shows you just how strong you are
I really do believe that long-distance relationships show how strong you and your partner are, and the trials of a long-distance relationship can really show if you can manage life as a couple.
Being apart from your partner makes you feel like if you can survive a long-distance relationship, you can get through anything!
It can be fun!
It’s so important to remember that long-distance relationships can be a lot of fun- and they are worth the wait!
You can find ways to enjoy your time apart, such as watching things “together” or planning fun virtual dates.
There’s also nothing quite like looking forward to a long-distance visit, or that moment when you first see your partner at the train station after a long time apart.
5 Tips for Surviving a Long-Distance Relationship
Communicate, communicate, communicate!
Communication is so important to surviving a long-distance relationship. You might hear this a lot- but the power of communication really should not be under-estimated!
If your relationship is suddenly over message or phone, things can soon break down if you’re not completely honest with each other about how you feel.
Chat with each other regularly, express concerns as soon as they pop up, and check in with your partner every so often about how they’re coping.
Trust each other
Trust is so important in any relationship, but when you’re apart it’s critical to know that you can trust your partner.
If you’re in a healthy relationship, you won’t feel the need to “check up” on your partner whether you’re together or long-distance, but knowing you have that trust is so important when you don’t have physical reassurance from your partner on a daily basis.
Plan social activities with other people
Of course you should keep looking out for your relationship, but while you and your partner spend time apart, it’s so important to give yourself other things to do.
Make sure to plan regular social activities with others and push yourself to get out and about.
It can make a world of difference to spend an hour or two with a friend when you’re missing your boyfriend or girlfriend.
Focus on you
Spend some time on yourself while you and your partner are apart. I know it sounds cliché, but a great tip to surviving a long-distance relationship is learning to understand yourself as a person.
I was long-distance at a time when I didn’t really know what I was doing, and after graduation I was a bit lost. Having that time to focus on myself helped to get me where I am now!
The main thing that helped me the most when I was in a long-distance relationship was always making sure to plan ahead.
Most of my long-distance relationship was during the worst of the pandemic- so visits were few and far between.
However, any visits we were allowed gave us something to really look forward to throughout our time apart- and you really need to plan ahead to a time when you will be together again, whether temporarily or permanently.
Have you tried out long-distance with your partner in the past? Do you think these tips are helpful to surviving a long-distance relationship? Do you think long-distance relationships ar epossible?
Let me know all your thoughts in the comments below 🙂
Happy reading x
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Thank you for sharing your experience! My partner and I were long distance for over 1 year and a half before we moved in together (just before lockdown started)!
I specifically agree with you said about communication and trust being incredibly important. If it wasn’t for those two things in particular, we may not have survived the long distance! It was hard at times but as you said, could also be fun too!x
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Thank you Charlotte 🙂 that’s sounds like we were in the exact same position then, congratulations on finally getting to be together again! Yes those things are so important x
Aw thank you Alicia 🙂 I hope they help if you’re ever in that situation, and I agree I think taking time to work on yourself is a great way to spend your time x
I have never been in a long-distance relationship so I admire anyone who is able to do this! These are great tips and I know my friends who were in long-distance relationships really benefitted from communication for sure! It’s awesome that you guys are living together now. Way to go on surviving a long-distance relationship during a pandemic!
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Thank you Heidi 🙂 I think it’s said a lot, but you really can’t over-state the importance of communication! Thank you so much x
So lovely to hear you and your boyfriend moved in together after being long distance. This is a great post for anyone in one, you only ever hear negatives from people so it’s lovely to hear good story and it really does prove that if you want it, it’s possible. Communication is so so important in every relationship but I suspect so much more in long distance. Thank you for sharing.
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Thank you! Yes I want everyone to know it’s possible if you find yourself in this situation. I think communication is so necessary, and when you don’t have any physical signs that something is wrong it’s doubly important to talk all the time x
Congratulations on moving in together.
I haven’t personally done the long distance thing, but these are great tips for anyone who finds themselves in that position.
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Thank you so much! Yes it can be so hard, but I’m glad you think the post will be helpful x