Welcome back for a special birthday post 🙂
I wrote this after reading a post by Abbie and I’ve also seen a lot of these kind of posts on various other blogs. So, I thought seeing as I’m turning 21 today I should add my thoughts to the mix!
When I actually sat down to write this post, I realised 21 is a lot of things to come up with, so a few of them are short but sweet.
1. The busier you are, the more you get done
I genuinely believe this. I am always more productive when I have more things to get done, as I set myself tighter deadlines. While stress can get out of control if not handled well, some pressure can help to get tasks done.
And so when you are busier, you definitely get more done.
2. Everyday is a skincare battle
I have very acne-prone skin, and so I have to accept that some mornings when I wake up my skin will have break-outs worse than others. I’m starting to accept that everyday is a real skincare battle for me.
It’s great to find supportive people online who really understand the struggles of dealing with constant acne, and I’m slowly accepting this about myself.
3. Always prioritise your mental health
This is definitely important to remember whatever stage of your life you are in. Mental health is so important as it’s the centre of everything to do with your well-being. You need to find out what helps your mental health- whether that’s time with others or time alone. And then you need to do it.
Remember to take time for yourself, and know how to make yourself feel mentally strong and capable.
4. It’s okay to disagree with people- even when it’s unpopular
It can be hard to disagree with people when it seems like you have an unpopular opinion, but this is slowly something I’m starting to realise. It’s okay to disagree with people as long as it’s well-informed and not just for the sake of it.
5. Peppermint tea can solve anything
I love peppermint tea, and I always pour myself a cup for any ailment- physical or mental. I find it has very calming properties, and I would definitely recommend it for period pain or if you’re having a cosy night in.
6. Family is the most important thing
Family is so important. And this isn’t just people you’re related to or that you live with. It could be housemates, friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, or extended family. Anyone who has an important impact on your life, or makes you feel happy, or supports you.
Those people should always be kept close. I am a true believer that it’s not about where you are, but about who you’re with.
7. Gilmore Girls is the best series
It really is! Me and my family love this series, and it provides endless hours of entertainment and conversation among me, my family, and my friends. I really recommend it.
8. Fitness and health can be a real mood boost
It’s only since the pandemic started that I’ve started working out, and exercise can be a real mood boost. I know this isn’t new information, but for me I was surprised how much I enjoyed it.
9. Pizza is just as good the day after
This is universally acknowledged, surely? I love pizza a lot, and if you have never ordered a pizza and then saved some of it for later- or even for lunch the day after- you need to now.
10. It’s okay to say no to socialisation
Even when you love someone to bits, sometimes you need time by yourself. And sometimes you want to be surrounded by people. It’s okay to appreciate both states of mind, so don’t be afraid to tell the people you love that you fancy some time alone.
11. Social media can be toxic
I no longer use Facebook or my personal Instagram account- and I’ve really felt the benefits. I used to compare myself a lot to others on social media, so I think (while social media can be great) it’s worth checking some unhealthy, toxic habits related to using it.
12. Social media can also be a very lovely place
I love using social media for my blog, even if I don’t use it in my personal life. It’s such a great place to talk to other bloggers and promote my posts. I love the Twitter community, and so I’m not completely against the use of social media- just as long as it’s being used for good!
13. People filter their photos!
As someone with constant break-outs, it can be annoying when it seems that everyone has perfectly clear skin. So I think it’s important that I’ve learned that people filter their photos.
It’s not necessarily a positive or negative thing, but it’s something you have to accept- and you have to understand that everyone has flaws. And in the age of social media, not everything is as it seems.
14. Not everything in life is black and white
I think this is one of the most important things I’ve learned in my 21 years. It’s so easy for people to view issues in the world as black vs. white, good vs. bad. But there are so many grey areas in life, and with current topics we always have to remember that there are two sides to many stories.
I’ve also learned that having an open mind is about accepting other opinions and not shutting yourself off to opinions other than your own. It can be hard to do this, but life wouldn’t be interesting without differing opinions.
15. Cheese makes everything better
On a physical and mental level, cheese makes everything better. I love adding cheese to most meals I eat, and it definitely improves everything!
16. I am bad at doing my hair
I can do about 4 different hair styles, and they’re very basic. I find hair styles very difficult to do, and this is something I have definitely learned in the past 21 years. And I’m okay with that, maybe in the future I’ll follow YouTube videos and perfect some more complicated hairstyles!
17. I experience the photic sneeze reflex
This basically means that when I look at bright lights or I’m sat in the sun, I often have the instinct to sneeze. This isn’t a big deal or anything- it just means I’m likely sneeze when I’m sat next to a very sunny window, for example.
But it’s only this year that I realised only 18-35% of the population have this reflex- after almost 20 years thinking everyone experienced this!
18. I’m good at cooking- but only easy recipes
I’ve spent the past few years at University, and so I’ve been cooking more meals for myself. And I can cook well, as long as the recipes are easy. I love making spaghetti bolognaise, chilli, fajitas, roasted veggies and rice… And I enjoy it. But I’ve definitely learned that easy recipes are my favourite.
19. I love to sing- even badly
I love singing, and I annoy everyone by constantly singing along to lyrics- especially seeing as I’m not particularly good, and I rarely know all the lyrics. But I genuinely think that singing can be good for you, and I’ve found it’s a good way to let out some emotion during lockdown.
There’s nothing like listening to music and getting lost in a good song.
20. Its okay to not know where you’re going
Maybe this isn’t something that I’ve learned- but it’s definitely something I’d like to believe!
Post-University, I have no idea what I’m going to do next. I want to find a job, find out what I like doing, and go from there. But it can be hard when every single person around you seems to have a plan set in stone.
I’ve been spending some time doing courses in subjects such as marketing and content creating, as these are fields I’m very interested in. I particularly enjoyed “An Introduction to Content Marketing” and “How to Create Engaging Social Media Marketing Content”.
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21. Everyday sexism is real
I have definitely learned this. There are so many instances of everyday sexism, and whether you’ve experienced it or not it can be the little things that grate on you. Boys assuming they can shout rude comments as you walk by, groping in clubs, people asking me what my dad does and not my mum.
Small instances of sexism (or people acting like idiots) are often excused away or forgotten, but for the individual, these instances can be annoying or even harmful.
I seem to have learned a lot in my 21 years- but it certainly doesn’t feel like it! I hope you enjoyed reading all my thoughts here.
What are your thoughts on my list? What would you add to your own list? Would you write a similar post on your next birthday? Let me know all your thoughts in the comments below!
Happy reading x
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